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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

You Aren't Prince Honey, Enough With The Pussy Control

Yes, we are going there. Why not? I'm feeling inspired. Actually, by a few different things that I have read and a few different conversations that I have had with quasi-friends lately. I say quasi-friends because it's those people who you aren't really close to, people you would never share anything more than the name of the store where you found the cute bag you're carrying. Yet, for some reason, they feel the need to divulge way too much detail to you.

One in particular told me something that just annoyed the hell out of me. She left the conversation, well, unhappy. My honesty (ie, blunt nature) had not been welcomed. I guess she is more accustomed to the "You go girl" type reactions.

Her: If he doesn't fix it, he's not gonna see this pussy for weeks.
Me: You do realize you aren't the only one left walking around with one of those, right?

*crickets chirping*
So, maybe she didn't realize that? Maybe she thought not having sex with her boyfriend would really teach him? Oh yes, you read that right. BOYFRIEND! Not even married yet and she was going to refuse him sex. Are you fucking kidding me??!!! Even better, the "it" was the dishwasher in her apartment. The apartment that had a full time repairman, but he kind of creeped her out, so she was insisting that her boyfriend work all day, then come over and fix it. Bitch please!!

We long ago established I am not a fan of holding back the sex. I like the sex, why would I punish myself if I am upset with someone else? If I get mad at my boss, I don't suggest he pay me less. Same fucking principle, people. Intimacy is the payoff of a relationship. Sex helps to A:have mind blowing orgasms B:burn calories C:continue the physical attraction (every time you have sex with the same person, you find yourself more attracted to them, unless one of you has disengaged) D:strengthens the intimacy level between you.

Holding sex out as a reward for good behavior, or taking it away as a punishment for perceived bad behavior sends one signal and it is a relationship damaging signal. You don't desire your partner, you merely have sex with them as a favor. If that's really the case, WTF??!!

So, are you with a man who you simply don't desire or are you such a controlling bitch that you are willing to use your body and the foundations of your relationship with the man you love to get what you want? I'm just asking. I mean, I am manipulative and I'm a bitch, but never would I be that kind of cruel, heartless, bitch.

Men and women can be players, some will cheat, some will attempt to control. All of it is a game. A dangerous one. None of it has any place within a relationship. The only games that should take place inside a relationship involve experiments and French maid costumes.

Time for me to go to sleep now.......dream of Jimmy Fallon.......wonder what he thinks of chocolate vaginas.......

11 comments:

Miss Spoken said...

How many times have I heard this spill from a woman's mouth? Too many. I often think they say it for the benefit of the person they are telling the story to. Did they really utter those words to their partner and if they did, did their partner really take them seriously?

And speaking of seriously .... Jimmy Fallon? Really? You kill my vagina every time you say his name....

[shudder]

Wicked Pen said...

i concur!
well, except for the jimmy fallon part.
i'd have to be drunk.

*****JAGER DRUNK******
and we all know how that is. :-/

-Pen

Wicked Shawn said...

I can't help it doll. I think it's my power issue. I think he's cute in a sad puppy sort of way, and he makes me laugh. Plus, he has that naughty school boy grin every now and then. But mostly, I just think if I got my hands on him, when I was finished he would be curled up in the fetal position begging for breast milk and gripping the fur cuffs like his life depended on it. He brings the dom in me to the surface. YUM!

Moooooog35 said...

That's why God gave men two hands, lube, and Cinemax porn.

I have WAY too much experience with all of that crap.

Wicked Pen said...

shawn---
you are one sick chick. LOL

-Pen

Elly Lou said...

Meanwhile I'm still eating cake for breakfast and not sleeping. Think the two are related?

*pauses to look up from said cake*

Wait, did you just say "begging for breast milk and gripping the fur cuffs like his life depended on it?"

You win.

Velva said...

Great post! Well said. I smiled and nodded my head up and down in total agreement.

secret agent woman said...

I don't like game playing. You know, there are men who withhold sex, too. Never a good idea from either side.

Wicked Shawn said...

Moooooog- did you say TWO hands? ummm, ok........*looks at Spoken* turn the webcam on over at Moooog's, would ya

Pen- You don't get to drink Jager and call me sick, not allowed, nope, I've had that stuff, not happening. Anything that tastes the exact same going in and out is just WRONG!

Elly- None of us are going to win if you don't step away from the cake and get some sleep.

Velva- Welcome to the Funhouse!! Thank you. I attempt to be right 99% of the time. I think it's working well so far. ;)

SA- True, but doesn't seem to happen as often.

The Absence of Alternatives said...

*hangs head* Thank you for the good talking to. This may just be what saves my marriage... ^_^;

Biscuit said...

"...Her: If he doesn't fix it, he's not gonna see this pussy for weeks.
Me: You do realize you aren't the only one left walking around with one of those, right?

*crickets chirping*..."


Hahahaha!!! That's unashamedly awesome!

"...We long ago established I am not a fan of holding back the sex. I like the sex, why would I punish myself if I am upset with someone else?..."

Incidentally, are you familiar with Keith and the Girl? (www.katg.com). Think it might be right up your street. 'The Girl' was talking in a podcast quite a while ago about this EXACT thing.